Transitions for Students and Parents
Both students and parents need to begin to prepare to make the transition to Southeast Tech. Students and parents need to sit down and talk about upcoming changes. For young adults leaving home is a major step towards achieving independence and adulthood, but the change can take a toll on the entire family. They're making their own decisions, they're choosing when they come home, picking their own classes, deliberating between healthy food or carryout, and much more. This growing independence changes how you, as parents, relate to them.
Notes for Parents
So What Does it All Mean?
- Make a plan. It may be helpful to plan when you will depart from your son or daughter on move-in day.
- Emotions. Anticipate a range of emotions as you approach moving your student to Sioux Falls.
- Communicate. Establish an appropriate method and amount of communication you will have with your student. Communicate frequently, but not constantly. Students need to develop a sense of independence as they transition to being a student.
- Empower. Let your student use his or her strengths to develop critical thinking skills and problem-solve. Guide and support your student, don’t attempt to fix the problem for them.
- Encourage. Persuade your student to meet their academic and student success advisor and to utilize other resources on campus.
- Visit (but not too often). Visits from parents – when accompanied by shopping sprees and eating out – are much anticipated events, even if your son or daughter won’t admit it. Spur-of-the moment and unannounced visits are not appreciated. Also, changing a students weekend plans with your visit is also a bad idea. Call your student and plan a visit. That way, you may actually see a clean apartment. We have set up special rates at several local hotels in Sioux Falls.
- Trust. Finding yourself in college is difficult enough without being second guessed by mom and dad. Trust your student is making the right decisions and support them when they make difficult choices.
It means that your son and daughter need to learn to deal with their own business as a young adult. Here are some ways you might do that as a parent:
- Encourage them to visit with their instructors when they have issues about their classes.
- Have your son and daughter visit the Financial Aid Office or the Business Office if they have concerns about their paying for school.
- If they need help, have them contact Student Success Center for assistance.