college student with her mom at Southeast Tech

Parent Message

Transitions for Students and Parents
Although it's your child that is moving on, both students and parents need to begin to prepare to make the transition to Southeast Tech. This is a great time to sit down and talk about upcoming changes which are pretty dramatic. For young adults, leaving home is a major step towards achieving independence and adulthood, but the change can be stressful for the entire family. They're making their own decisions, they're choosing when they come home, picking their own classes, deliberating between healthy food or carryout, and much more. This growing independence changes how you, as parents, relate to them.
Notes for Parents
  • Make a plan. It may be helpful to plan when you will depart from your son or daughter on move-in day. This can be a tough time!
  • Emotions. Anticipate a range of emotions as you approach moving your student to Sioux Falls. This is normal.
  • Communicate. Establish an appropriate method and amount of communication you will have with your student. Communicate frequently, but not constantly. Students need to develop a sense of independence as they transition.
  • Empower. Let your student use his or her strengths to develop critical thinking skills and problem-solve. Guide and support your student, but try not to fix the problem for them.
  •  Encourage. Persuade your student to meet their academic and student success advisor and to utilize other resources on campus.
  • Visit (but not too often). Visits from parents – when accompanied by shopping sprees and eating out – are much anticipated events, even if your son or daughter won’t admit it. Spur-of-the moment and unannounced visits may not be appreciated. Call your student and plan a visit to make it a positive experience. Take advantage of special rates at several local hotels in Sioux Falls and make a weekend of it!
  • Trust. Navigating your way in college can be difficult, especially if you feel like you're being second guessed. Trust your student is making the right decisions and support them when they make difficult choices.
So What Does it All Mean?

It means that your son or daughter is transitioning from being a dependent child to an independent young adult. Here are some ways you can help them do it successfully:

  1. Encourage them to visit with their instructors when they have issues about their classes.
  2. Have your son and daughter visit the Financial Aid Office or the Business Office if they have concerns about paying for school.
  3. If they need help, have them contact Student Success Center for assistance.